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Tag: cultural differences with your mother-in-law

Daughter-in-law The First, Daughter-in-law The Worst (#310)

Daughter-in-law The First, Daughter-in-law The Worst (#310)

My Chinese-American husband waited to bring a white woman home until he was almost thirty. At that point, Jay and Sunny were grateful Andy had found anyone.

There were plenty of arguments over our marriage venue and our potential change of last names, but no arguments against our actual marriage.

Once we were married, though,  it wasn’t exactly smooth sailing. Jay was upset when we didn’t have a child—specifically, the Number One Son of the Number One Son—right away. When the in-laws came to visit, they hit me with criticism for my cooking, my cats, my teapot, our dogs, and even our local Costco.

This negativity wouldn’t have bothered me as much if Jay and Sunny criticized their son-in-law or their other daughter-in-law. But Sunny fawned over her son-in-law.  And her other daughter-in-law? Denny’s Wife escaped the trials and tribulations I endured—including the Daughter-in-Law Tea Ceremony.

While favorite DIL status seemed an impossibility, I hoped that, once the Number One Son was on the way, I might at least achieve Level “Leave Her Alone.” Continue reading Daughter-in-law The First, Daughter-in-law The Worst (#310)

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Posted on December 18, 2020October 15, 2021Categories A strong-willed child, Babies, Changing your surname, Children, Chinese Culture, Chinese Father-in-law, Chinese In-laws, Chinese in-laws, Chinese Mother, Chinese Mother-in-law, Chinese Patriarchy, Chinese sons, Chinese-Americans, Eating Out, Hapa Babies, Houseguests, In-laws, Manners, Marriage, Parenting, Parents don't listen, Parents expect babies immediately, Parents expect obedient children, Stay-at-home Parenting, Tantrums, Thank you, Uncategorized, visiting, White Culture, why sons are favored over daughtersTags cultural differences with your mother-in-law, parenting is exhausting especially as you get older, some kids expect free childcare from their parents, when adult children expect free childcare from their parents, when you can't bear to mistreat your MIL even when she hasn't been nice to you, when you feel like the son-in-law is always favored over the daughter-in-law, when you feel like the worst daughter-in-law, when you never thought you'd ask your MIL to visit and then hell froze over, when you're the worst daughter-in-law, when your in-laws criticize everything, when your mother-in-law doesn't seem to like you, when your mother-in-law is very critical, when your mother-in-law thinks you're the worst--until she gets another daughter-in-law, when your sister-in-law is so mean you empathize with even your difficult mother-in-law13 Comments on Daughter-in-law The First, Daughter-in-law The Worst (#310)
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