Turkey Day Birthday (#308)


6 AM: Suicidal squirrels dart in front of dog on walk. We go down in a heap on cement, one of us swearing all the way. Badly bruised knee, road rash through pants, banged up hip and wrist. Nothing broken. Unfortunate. Still stuck having to cook up Thanksgiving & Birthday dinner for husband.

12:20 PM: Start on crust for Chocolate Satin pie husband requested. Baby D dismantles Oreos for the chocolate crust while I limp around kitchen.

1:30 PM: Pull pie crust out of oven. Discover sides have slid to the bottom of pie pan. Tell Baby D to quit eating all the Oreo middles while scrambling to find more reputable recipe online. Wonder who the fuck bribed 100+ people to write glowing reviews of crap pie recipe.

2 PM: Settle on Epicurious chocolate cream pie because have all the ingredients. Cook filling and bake pie crust while Baby D sneaks more Oreo middles.

4 PM: Assemble pie and refrigerate. Baby D moans about tummy ache and swears off Oreos forever.


9 AM: Assemble brine ingredients. Husband reads over shoulder and says, “You’re using wine in the brine?”

“I’m using a Martha Stewart recipe. It’s not just wine, it’s a Riesling.”

10 AM: Brine cooked. Turkey is successfully submerged in brine bin.


5 AM: Begin baking requested birthday coffee cake.

6:30 AM: Hit knuckle on 375 degree upper oven rack while sprinkling cinnamon crumble topping on almost baked cake. Jerk hand away and drop half of crumb topping on the oven door and kitchen floor. Swear a lot. Make more topping. Clean floor. Swear some more.

Andy’s favorite birthday breakfast.

8 AM: Cake is done. Make scrambled eggs and bacon while it cools, serve breakfast and cake to menfolk and wonder how the hell I wound up in the fifties. Andy devours cake, laughs over Beer Advent Calendar present. Beer Advent Calendar immediately eclipsed by big check in card from Andy’s mom because Chinese-American moms.

9 AM: Remove turkey from brine and hold over sink while brine pours out of neck? butt? of turkey—for about 10 minutes. Spend 10 more minutes trying to figure out how to position turkey so that wings are “tucked under” the body as Martha Stewart instructs. Finally swallow pride and call husband for advice.

Andy: “You’re cooking the turkey on its front?!”

Me: “You can go now.”

Wait until husband leaves. Flip bird the bird and then flip bird onto its back. Tuck wings underneath and tie up legs. Brush a cup of melted butter all over the turkey. Open drawer of Andy’s special kitchen utensils and pull out a cooking thermometer. And another. And a third. Oh, wait, there’s another one, and yet another—

“Andy! Which the hell thermometer do you use?!”

Husband returns, sorts through all seven thermometers, and hands me the hi-tech, electronic thermometer that has a long metal cord connecting the probe to the temperature reader.

“Is this a souvenir from the aliens?” I ask.

Andy sets the alien thermometer for 165 degrees and asks if I want to insert the probe. I ask him to calculate how long the turkey is supposed to cook, because perks of marrying someone with two advanced degrees in math. Andy tells me that at 20 minutes per pound it will take 4 hours and 40 minutes for the turkey to cook. I check my instructions and tell him the thermometer will just get in the way of basting. I’ll wait until I have to rotate the pan after 2 hours to use the thermometer.

Then I ask him where the turkey baster is, because Martha says I have to baste the bird with juices from the bottom of the pan every half-hour.

Reader, there is no turkey baster. We have SEVEN cooking thermometers and no turkey baster.

Discover all local stores are sold out of turkey basters.

Andy says, “I use a spoon.”

Spoon means tipping turkey roasting pan at precarious angle to reach the drippings and spoon juice all over the turkey. Spoon method seems ideal—for burning the chef or dumping the turkey on the floor (where dog eagerly awaits his chance to finally play the coveted canine role of “Bumpus dog”).

Baste the turkey with the stupid-assed spoon 4 times. I do not get burned. Disappointed dog does not get to Bumpus.

After 2 hours, I rotate the pan and graciously allow Andy to insert the thermometer in the thickest part of the thigh because he clearly wants to show off his expertise and not because I have no idea where a turkey thigh is. Set alien probe alarm for 165 degrees.

The thermometer reads 160 degrees.  I say, “I think it’s almost done. I’d better start the bread.”

“Oh, it’ll probably take a few hours for those last five degrees,” Andy assures me.

Reader, it does not take 2 hours.

Impatient turkey

It takes 20 MINUTES. The alarm goes off as I am up to my elbows in flour and dough. I hurriedly finish kneading and pull the roasting pan out of the oven—

–only to catch my wrist on the long HOT metal cord of the thermometer. Swear words pour from my mouth like brine from a turkey until the pan is safely on the top of the stove and my wrist is under cold water. The dog abandons his Bumpus dreams and hides in the living room.

Birthday wounds.

I swear some more. “The turkey is done, but the bread hasn’t even started its first rise! I haven’t even started creamy cabbage or the potatoes through the food mill! Arrgh! All hands on deck!”

The menfolk obediently shuffle into the kitchen.

Andy guides Baby D through pulverizing potatoes while I get the Shaker bread rising and the cabbage cooking. The gravy from the drippings is very salty (the perils of brining!). I rescue it with a flour slurry and chicken stock. Thankfully, Martha Stewart recommends turkeys “rest” for at least an hour after cooking.

Dinner is on the table at 3 PM, with the bread hot from the oven.

Andy declares the turkey excellent, the cabbage “almost as good” as his, the gravy delicious, the mashed potatoes suitably garlicky, and the bread, “good as always.” He eats enough that I have time to walk the dog before bringing out the chocolate cream pie with the Oreo cookie crust.

Baby D turns pale and refuses pie. A suitable replacement is found.Andy declares the pie his new favorite birthday dessert. Baby D shudders.

When Andy gets up from the table, I notice something.

“Honey, have you been wearing those pajamas ALL DAY?!”

“Yep. Best birthday ever.”

Turkeys (#307)

Once upon a time, birthdays were a huge deal in my family. Being showered with cake and presents made it the best day of the year.

My Chinese-American husband’s family wasn’t like that. Birthdays were no big deal. In fact, Andy’s grandmother was very superstitious about celebrating, especially as she reached her 90s. “If you have a big celebration that makes a lot of noise,” she said, “you’re just reminding the evil spirits that you’re still alive. They might decide to rectify that situation.” Continue reading Turkeys (#307)

Thanks (#160)

Andy and I didn’t travel this Thanksgiving. We’re staying in LA and having dinner with his three cousins, their spouses, and his aunt and uncle. Andy’s happy, because it’s low stress and highly economical.

He’s got a point. Yet I’m sad I’m not with my own white and uptight family, playing hearts and pigging out. This year, we wouldn’t even fight over politics — even Republican Big Brother agreed that Trump is a walking horror show. Continue reading Thanks (#160)

When You Listen to Lawyers (#120)

IMG_6583After serving on two excruciating civil juries, I got lucky. I reported for jury duty twice and never left the jury room. I was dismissed from service at the end of the day. Both times.

There was great rejoicing. Continue reading When You Listen to Lawyers (#120)

Sunny, with a Chance of Thanksgiving (#98)


My in-laws lived in Honolulu. My husband and I went there for our first Thanksgiving together.

You’re probably having the same reaction as most new acquaintances and coworkers. “Your in-laws live in Hawaii?! How awesome is that?” Continue reading Sunny, with a Chance of Thanksgiving (#98)

Thanksgiving with Jay (#97)

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The Treaty of the Religious Wedding Ceremony ended our War Over the Wedding Location with Andy’s parents. One of the conditions was that we would spend the Thanksgiving after our wedding with Jay and Sunny. During the week we were there, they would host a Chinese-style wedding banquet, mainly for Jay’s family members.

Andy’s parents called once before we left to get our flight information. Sunny asked Andy if there was anything we wanted to eat. He told her no, anything was fine. Which it was – FOR HIM. Andy can – and will – eat anything from animal brains (inaccurately, but oh-so innocently labeled “sweetbreads”) to Rocky Mountain Oysters (bulls’ balls). Continue reading Thanksgiving with Jay (#97)

Hearts & Turkeys (#96)

IMG_4955I took a boyfriend home for Thanksgiving at my Ex-Stepfather’s house. Once. Ethan came from a small, immigrant family and thought my description of tons of food, alcohol, card games, and siblings sounded awesome.

“Mostly we play Hearts,” I warned him. “It’s brutal.”

“Hearts? Cool. I’m good at Hearts.” Continue reading Hearts & Turkeys (#96)

Turkey Chase (#94)

The Bethesda Turkeys warm up.
The Bethesda Turkeys warm up.

My siblings and I once celebrated Thanksgiving in the traditional fashion. We met at my Ex-Stepfather’s house in the DC suburbs and pigged out. Family members brought appetizers and wine. (A LOT of wine.) Drinking, eating, and cards started around noon. Football games played on the living room TV. The turkey was usually served by 4 PM. Dishes were finished around 7. Our exercise consisted of a slow walk around the neighborhood about 7:30.

Big Brother’s Wife wrecked our tradition of sloth and gluttony. Continue reading Turkey Chase (#94)

Turkey Running (#92)

The turkey always wins.
The turkey always runs.  Turkey Chase

Running is a big deal these days. There’s running gear, running clubs, and races for every holiday. Everyone I know seems to be doing a marathon.

When I was a kid, I only ran when Big Brother chased me. I’m pretty sure that’s the only time he ran, either. Continue reading Turkey Running (#92)