Dogless (#365)

We had never lived in our house without a dog. The night the owners of our current house accepted our offer, we got our first dog. Woofie came with us to the housing inspection. In less than six months, we’d gotten Woofie a buddy named Fey. Dogs were incorporated into our lifestyle from the start.

They prewashed our dishes, which was especially handy with egg yolk.

They made sure we got exercise: 2-6 miles daily.

They helped us meet our neighbors. (To this day, I generally know the names of all the dogs in the neighborhood. Their owners’ names? No idea.)

They guarded our house and saved us money on alarms and utility bills. If the dogs were home, we could leave the windows open when we were out.

They gave us a handy excuse to leave awkward dinners or parties: “Gotta get home and let out the dogs before Bad Things Happen.”

The dogs helped entertain and raise Baby D, as well as ensuring he had a very robust immune system.

Even in Los Angeles, I could walk those dogs at any hour without an ounce of fear. Only the most desperate, hopeful dog-lovers would approach me and my 160 pounds of canines. (When they did approach, it always made Woofie’s day.)

No TV show was ever as funny as watching their battles over water bottles or tug toys (which generally ended in Woofie dragging Fey around the yard as she hung onto said toy). We spent many summer evenings on our swing in the backyard laughing over their antics.

They were family, whether snuggling with us on the couch at night or counter surfing relentlessly during the day.

And we lost them both to different cancers within a year-and-a-half of each other.

I took losing Woofie hard. So did our Boss Cat. While Fey had guarded her yard all day, Woofie spent much of the day inside, playing with Boss Cat or getting attention from me. I kept expecting to hear his claws on the hardwood floor, or feel his muzzle lift my arm when I paid too much attention to the computer screen.

Boss Cat tried to play with Fey, but Fey was a sensitive German Shepherd mix. When Boss Cat batted her in the face, Fey barked and snapped. A normal cat would have fled. Boss Cat glared and hit Fey with her right paw so hard that the WHAP reverberated through the house. Fey—who had vanquished multiple loose pit bulls, a Tibetan Shepherd mix, and a Rhodesian ridgeback—winced and slunk away. Without a canine playmate, Boss Cat consoled herself with food, gaining a pound after Woofie’s demise.

Andy took Fey’s death hardest. She was his obedient girl who loved to jump on the couch and have him pet her face after he got home from work. Andy consoled himself with Boss Cat, who allowed cuddles and head bunting nightly.


Our dogless house was a quieter place. Less mess. Less money spent at the vet. No need to hurry home from Baby D’s soccer tournaments. It was much easier (and cheaper!) to hire the girls down the block to feed Boss Cat than to find a reliable dog sitter to stay in our house when we traveled.

We closed and locked all our windows up when we left, returning to a house that was a veritable SoCal sauna.

We had to throw out leftover food and waste water rinsing away egg yolks.

I still went for early morning walks, but my only companion was Pokemon Go. Sometimes I would see a big dog and run over, cooing, “Oh my GOD! She’s so cute! Can I say hi?! I have a venison treat in my pocket in case she had allergies is that okay?!”

I had become the desperate dog stalker.

We took care of a friend of a friend’s dog for a few days. Boss Cat hated that dog on sight. She nearly tore out a window screen trying to escape the house and refused to come into the living room until the dog went home.

I told Andy, “I guess if we want another dog, it would have to have Boss Cat’s approval.”

“You want another dog? You’re the one that always goes on about how you have to train it and do all the work.”

“Yeah, but…our house doesn’t feel right. Every morning, going up the hill, I think, ‘This is such a waste of a walk. Some rescue dog out there would be loving this.'”

“We’d have to find a dog that is good with cats and kids.”

“But it has to be a rescue dog that needs a home. A big dog.”

“Not over eighty pounds,” Andy declared. “I need be able to carry the dog ten years from now when it’s old and sick.”

“It’ll have to be trained. And not a puppy. I am not up for spending hours on dog training again.”

“So we’re looking for a dog that’s good with cats, good with kids, is big but under 80 pounds, is young, but not a puppy and fully trained?”

“Yeah,” I sighed. “We’re probably not getting another dog for a while, are we?”

And we didn’t.

Until I found the Tank.

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Autumn Ashbough

WF writing about the humorous perils of life with Chinese-American significant other.

29 thoughts on “Dogless (#365)”

  1. Can not wait to hear about Boss Cat and Tank! Sounds like a partnership between an 1880s mob/treat boss and their #1 henchmen. Lol

  2. I know the feeling, only with cats instead of dogs. Life just wasn’t the same once we had Sydney put down in February. Longest two months of my life between that and adopting Laverne & Shirley.

    You’re the second blogging buddy I know with a dog named Tank, by the way. They even look kind of the same.


    1. *Hurriedly zips Autumn suit back up* Of course not! Nobody here but Autumn, who never puts up her own picture…

      Gray pitties and Pittie mixes are so common, especially in SoCal. We have at least four in our neighborhood at any given time.

      Life without cats is sucky, too. I was so pleased when you got your girls. Even if they can’t catch flies.

  3. So new family member. Post-covid all the big cities’ animal shelters are quite full. Our local ones are desperate to have eager owners/trainers.

    1. The shelters in SoCal never fully emptied, not even during COVID. We just have too many unaltered dogs, despite tons of rescue groups. As one group says, we cannot rescue our way out of our over population problem. It requires spaying, neutering, and educating the community. My hat is off to everyone who works in animal rescue–it’s some of the most emotionally draining work out there.

  4. Tank looks an utterly gorgeous hunk of muscle, so I do hope Boss Cat thinks likewise.

    It’s taken me lots of time getting used to a pet free home, and I work hard at believing it’s just a temporary blip. Looking forward to the day we’re able to live somewhere more suitable, and we can welcome one (probably more, truth be told) back into our lives, home and hearts.

    1. He is a gorgeous hunk of muscle. It’s been lovely–although sometimes physically painful, his tail is something else–to have a dog again. I hope you get pets sooner rather than later. The joy is worth all the work and expense!

  5. Tank looks like a lovey. Such a good boy! I’m glad you’ve found your new best buddy. As for Boss Cat, she might accept him… maybe… in her own way.

    1. He is mostly a good boy. We recently learned that he gets nervous when the wind makes the house rattle, and we’ve had some very strong winds. The advantage of getting an older dog is that their personalities are pretty set. The disadvantage is not knowing what sort of PTSD might show up later.

  6. I love the tank!! He’s so cute! I’m glad you found another dog… it must have been so hard those months (years?) without Fey and Woofie. Can’t wait to hear about all of Tank’s stories in upcoming posts 😉

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