Pets Versus Dinner (#176)

Christmas Bunny, just prior to attacking a confused cat.

My family has always had a multitude of pets. I grew up with dogs, cats, turtles, rodents, and more. We even had a very special Siamese rabbit named Christmas. Yes, Christmas. Normal people have bunnies named Peter, but, hey, my little sister was only five when she found him in a New Jersey parking lot. Christmas was a New Jersey street tough masquerading as an adorable bunny. He spent ten happy years terrorizing the family Labrador and several cats while eating the antique Italian Provincial dining room set.

I loved Christmas, but I opted for cats when I had my own place. My Chinese-American husband opted for big dogs. When my in-laws arrived, the dogs made friends immediately. The cats hid.

My mother-in-law was insulted. “I call ‘kitty, kitty,” and sometimes the big one, he will hold still for a minute, but then he runs away. The little cat! Pah! She wants nothing to do with me!” Sunny continued to make overtures, which Commando Cat eventually accepted. He’s the not-so-smart cat.

About a week into my in-laws’ visit, when Jay badgered me about using my computer for video poker for the hundredth time, I deflected him with, “Why don’t you pet Commando Cat?”

Jay refused at first, but eventually he approached Commando Cat’s scratching post and gingerly tapped the cat. Commando Cat purred.

“In China, you eat cat,” Jay announced.

I laughed, sure that Jay was messing with the white girl. And then I saw that his tapping looked like German hausfrau squeezing a melon for ripeness. I snatched Commando Cat away. He yowled at me and tried to return to his new friend Jay.

I told you he was the stupid cat.

“These are my PETS,” I informed Jay.

Jay shrugged. “In China, you eat dogs, too.”

“Yeah, well, here we go to the Olive Garden.”

Jay nodded at one of our dogs, curled up next to the desk. “How old is Fey?”

“Why do you want to know?” I countered, not about to give anything away to a potential Canine Connoisseur. The Cantonese are known for eating everything except the dinning room chairs. Maybe eating puppies in China equates to eating veal in America. (And don’t be getting all judgy about other cultures’ food, meat-eating American readers. Your favorite In-n-Out burger was once a sweet baby cow with big brown eyes. The bacon you had for Sunday brunch? That was adorable little Wilbur the pig, more social and smarter than most dogs. Most of us just don’t take pigs on walks and snuggle with them. Makes it easier to eat bacon in peace, doesn’t it?)

My mother-in-law joined us, asking what we were talking about.

I told her that Jay wanted to know how old Fey was. Sunny and Jay conversed in Cantonese while I carted the Commando Cat to our bedroom and shut the door. When I returned to the office, Sunny was telling off Jay.

“No, no, you fool! That’s not what you do!”

I cheered my mother-in-law on silently. Go, Sunny! You tell him what’s what here in America, where we make a distinction between food and pet.

Jay barked again in Cantonese.

Sunny shook her head and even stamped her foot as she yelled, “No! I tell you, the saying is that you eat young dog and old cat! Not the other way around!”

Wait, what? My in-laws were arguing over the proper age of canine and feline cuisine, not whether eating my pets was allowed. Jesus. Fey and Woofie were young dogs, barely a year old. The cats were eleven and eight. If Sunny was right, they were all aged to perfection. Then sanity returned. Surely even in-laws as intrusive mine wouldn’t roast our pets.

Jay proclaimed, “Fey would be good eating.”

To my eternal shame, I unthinkingly argued, “No way! Fey’s too skinny! We’d have to eat Woofie, he’s much fatter!” Then I slammed a hand over my mouth.

Sunny laughed.

“I didn’t mean that! Woofie, I’m so sorry!” I sat on the floor and rubbed Woofie’s tummy. His meaty tummy. Damn it, now I was thinking of pets as livestock. Ugh. “Didn’t Andy have pets growing up?”

“Andy had Bunny,” Sunny replied. “Somebody gave him rabbits. We kept them in the backyard.”

I relaxed. “Really? We had rabbits, too.”

“Yeah, and Andy have boy and girl and then oooo! Suddenly we get even more rabbits! And even more rabbits! And I tell Jay, ‘we have too many rabbits!’”

Uh-oh. I suspected the story of Bunny was not going to be a happy one – at least not by WASP standards.

But Bunny’s story must have been hysterical by Chinese standards. Sunny giggled as she related how she and Jay decided that a rabbit belonged in the stewpot. They picked Andy’s favorite, because Bunny was the fattest (probably from being hand-fed by Andy – oh, the irony).

Now, while Jay and Sunny planned to efficiently emulate their agrarian ancestors, they grew up in the city of Hong Kong. Neither one had any practical expertise in slaughtering animals.

“So Jay says ‘Get a bag, put in the rabbit, and I’ll get a stick,’” Sunny told me. She grinned, not at all discouraged by my appalled expression. “I got the rabbit in the bag, Jay told me to hold the bag, then BAM! He hit it with stick. But not hard enough and the rabbit screams, ‘eeee, eeee,’ so Jay hit it again. But we opened the bag and the rabbit is still not dead!” Sunny paused to laugh with fond remembrance at their ineptitude, “So, ha, ha, we have to take Bunny to my mother’s apartment! Where she killed it for us, ha, ha, ha!”

Sunny laughed for a full minute. Even Jay cracked a smile.

When my in-laws looked at me expectantly, I swallowed hard and asked, “Did you, um, eat Bunny?”

“Oh, yeah. Sure. Po-po, she made him into good stew.”

I fled the room.

I held onto the faint hope that my in-laws were pranking me.

But no. When Andy got home, he not only confirmed the story, he even chuckled as I told him how his mother laughed. Apparently, my husband was less traumatized than I was.

I eventually steeled myself to ask what happened to the remaining rabbits.

Andy hesitated. “I don’t think you want to know…”

“How delicious they were?” I finished for him. “It’s okay. Plenty of people eat bunnies, instead of keeping them as pets. I get that the choice to eat an animal versus make it a pet is a matter of tradition. Or culture. I just…wasn’t prepared. Not for the rabbit-eating.”

“Well, we didn’t eat them. A neighbor’s dog did after it got loose.” Andy offered me a box of tissues.

I waved it away. “Thank God.”

“What? No tears, even though you had pet rabbits?”

“Please. Compared to beating and torture, a quick death by dog was the best thing that could happen to those poor bunnies.”

The next time Andy and I visited my Ex-stepmother, we met her latest pet rabbit, Rascal. Rascal was an ill-tempered rabbit. He bit me twice. Andy offered to put him in the stewpot. I scolded him. Rascal was still a pet. Thereafter, every time we moved Rascal’s cage, Andy did his best impression of Hannibal Lechter licking his chops.

I’m pretty sure he’s just screwing with me.


For those worried about our pets, fear not. They all survived. Sunny even sang the dogs to sleep while petting them: “Sleepy time, Fey, go to sleep, sleepy dog.” And Fey would close her eyes, never guessing that, but for time & geography, she might have been dinner.

Wily old Bat Cat, however, stayed under the bed until my in-laws were gone.

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Autumn Ashbough

WF writing about the humorous perils of life with Chinese-American significant other.

30 thoughts on “Pets Versus Dinner (#176)”

  1. I’d like to counter the “poor wee Wilbur the pig” with the fact that pigs also have no issue with eating humans, given the chance. o.O …I’m almost convinced rabbits would too, if they were bigger.
    I’m glad your pets remained safe and well, though!
    Oh, and as you mentioned, the “weird” food habits goes both ways: a lot of people in Japan keep crayfish as pets, while in Sweden we have a whole festival devoted to gorging piles and piles of them. (This is still something that mystifies me, as often the Japanese will eat almost literally anything that comes out of the ocean. The only logical conclusion I’ve been able to come to is that crayfish are freshwater creatures and therefore not worthy of being used for cuisine. Some freshwater fish is eaten, but it’s often automatically deemed “lesser”.)

    1. I did not know this about crayfish as pets not worthy enough for food trend! Thanks for sharing. Yeah, in the south, people eat tons of them.

      Pigs will eat ANYTHING. And as my Dr. Sis loves to tell people, the pig that eats ONLY another pig’s crap gains the most weight.

      1. I did not know that about pigs. Learning all round here! o.O; Almost impressed as pig poo smells awful. Horse and cow dung, not so much.

  2. When I was 4 or 5 we kept a pet rabbit. One day it disappeared and I was worried he would have fell from the balcony. I remember my mum asking the doorman if he had seen a rabbit running around. But we never found him.

    Years later, my mum confessed we had eaten that rabbit…

      1. I was more like Andy hahaha. Many years had passed so no point in being mad. It also seemed that the rabbit had been destined to the pot since the beginning (it was actually a farm rabbit that someone gave my parents).

    1. I suspect I will never know just how much Andy’s dad was jerking my chain about eating the pets. I mean, Jay and Sunny had a little dog at home, but at the same time, if they lived with us and it was the zombie apocalypse, they’d probably have no compunction about eating our animals. Which is very hard for privileged white Americans to wrap their heads around. Our supermarkets and fast-food restaurants are shiny, bright, and far removed from actual slaughter. Many people I know are opposed to hunting — not BAMBI! — but it seems more honest. (As long as the hunted animal is not endangered, it’s not just for sport, and you eat the whole thing.) The entire East Coast is overrun with deer.

  3. Not sure ex-Stepmother has ever really forgiven me for suggesting that when Rascal escapes, she should put a sign out telling the coyotes it is feeling time.

  4. Bat cat is smart cat.
    I must say that my in-laws never suggested eating our bunnies or any other pets but at the same time MIL is a real killer. I really do wonder how many pets she had and they “suddenly” died in her care. The seven years I know her one puppy died, 6 cats (one even lost first a leg due to her “care”), over 10 turtles and some birds…

  5. I usually enjoy reading your blog, although I haven’t commented. However, this time I must say I feel really bad reading this… I know I am overly sensitive when it comes to animals, but reading that description of your in-laws killing the poor bunny so cruelly was really awful. I know that the meat industry is also horrible and I’m not trying to be on some high horse here, but maybe less gruesome descriptions next time? Or some sort of warning of animal abuse?

    I can add that I also cried when I saw baby bunnies on sale on the streets in Beijing, so yeah, overly sensitive. Christmas was really cute though!

    1. Oh, I totally understand. Thank you for commenting and I am so sorry about the bunnies. It was a tough call as to whether or not posting this was gratuitously cruel. I actually edited it down (yes, it was worse), but you’re right, a trigger warning for the softhearted might have been a good idea.

      And you’re not the only soft-hearted one — they have bunnies for sale at the Sandwich Fair in New Hampshire. And not as pets, either. I sniffle over those guys, too. And every dog in the pound and the Yulin Dog Festival also. 🙁

  6. Awww.. the poor bunnies 🙁 What is it with Asian parents and wanting to get rid of bunnies? We had a pet bunny and my mom told me it ‘ran away,’ but years later I found out she just let it go (better than eating him, I suppose).

    In my small po-dunk town we had one Chinese restaurant, and the family running it were the only Chinese people in town. A nasty rumor went around that they served and ate dog/cat and business dropped significantly. I was upset because I thought: how could people be so racist! Just because you hear that Chinese people eat dog on TV doesn’t mean they really do!

    And then I went to China, and I saw dog on the menu… haha. It was true. I didn’t order it, couldn’t bring myself to do it.

    1. No, I couldn’t order it, either. If you aren’t brought up to view certain animals as food, you anthropomorphize them to the point where you can’t eat them unless maybe you are starving. Andy, on the other hand, can eat anything. So he will survive the zombie apocalypse.

  7. Hahhahaa. Well, just to reassure you, I have a chapter in my book called, “Not all Asians eat their pets.” Perhaps I’ll dedicated it to you 😀


    1. Damn, I have the sharpest readers! If I were rich and not anonymous, I would send prizes to people for catching typos, wrong names, bad linkage, etc. And you would have won the jackpot. (Maybe it would have been a stewpot trophy, ha!) Thanks so much for commenting, Maple. I have fixed the numbering. #176 started as an anniversary post, but it was boring and self-indulgent. I nixed it in favor of “Pets Versus Dinner,” and then oops! Forgot to change the # in what would have been the 177th post. Glad you caught that. Well done. Also, thanks for being polite about it.

      1. No worries, that’s what we, number people are here for. Frankly, I was just worried that there was another post and I can’t get to it. And if you need someone to make sure that all the pages are in proper order in your book, I’m all yours 🙂

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